I recently read a powerful quote about resentments. Here it is…

“Resentment is like drinking poison and waiting for the other person to die.” – Carrie Fisher

What does that mean? Well in short, it means that resentments are silent killers to the beholder. The resented person walks away unscathed and unfazed. Meanwhile, the beholder of resentment suffers in anger, hostility, and jealousy.

Resentments are valid! They are rooted in feelings and emotions, and so, they are always valid. However, they do nothing to help anyone. And so, they are best absolved and forgiven.

Forgiveness has nothing to do with the other person and everything to do with the beholder. Forgiveness is not based on conditions. Forgiveness is a one-way street. In order to forgive, we must accept that we need to let go of our resentments.

It’s hard to let go of such intense emotions. They feel like they are serving a purpose in our lives. AND they are conniving and manipulative. Resentments are like poison in the cup of the beholder.

So do yourself a favor today, identify your resentments and work toward forgiveness. I’d be interested to hear how this process affects your emotions. Feel free to leave comments in the section below.

Check out the Emotional Wellness Tab and Self-Affirmations Tab for more on resentments and forgiveness.